Fortunately, all we can affect is what is immediately before us. That’s the good news. The bad news is, we spend an abundance of energy worrying about what has been and what is to come so that we don’t really live in the present.
As human beings, we tend to find things to worry about, even when everything is pretty much okay. We are often thinking about what happened yesterday and wishing we had handled it another way or that things had turned out differently.
We all make mistakes. Noticing them helps us grow. So does apologizing, changing our course of action and setting new limits. The idea is to take responsibility for ourselves, make a new decision and take a new action. Worrying gets us nowhere, except stuck in our heads.
We cannot affect the past. We may as well accept that. What we can do is make a decision in the current moment to affect the present circumstances. We can plan for the future, but it’s anyone’s guess as to how things will really turn out. A good friend of mine and I used to refer to worrying about what might happen in the future as “making up scary stories”. This is when you decide what is likely to happen or what someone might do and you get yourself all in a tizzy about it. This is a huge waste of energy. The truth is that you don’t know.
Live life. Experience this day. Notice the beauty unfolding before your eyes. Nature, laughter, the antics of children. If we set reasonable expectations of what can be accomplished in one day, even when life feels like too much, we realize that we need only make the decisions immediately before us. Then let go to enjoy what life has to offer today; for tomorrow, it will be gone.